Summers in Minnesota are special. They are basically our reward for surviving yet another cold and treacherous winter (okay, maybe I’m being a bit dramatic… but only a bit). Summer means it’s finally time to enjoy the great outdoors! This summer feels extra special to me because it’s my last summer as a mama of one. All I want to do is soak up every single moment spending time with my little man, because life will soon be changing drastically for both of us (don’t get me wrong though, this mama still needs happy hour with the girls and breaks in general!). Something I struggle with is feeling like things on the home front need to be perfect in order for me to feel like I’m being successful as a stay at home mom. I think the house needs to be cleaned, a good meal needs to be cooked for dinner, and the laundry needs to be put away. Well, this summer my goal is to become slightly lazy and to stop caring so much about these things! Let me tell you why.
Category: Mom Thoughts
If there’s one thing that’s totally surprised me about motherhood, it’s how much I’ve learned from this tiny human named Jonas (my son). I’m not talking about learning how to change diapers, removing week old stains from clothes, or figuring out how to sooth a screaming babe at 2:45 in the morning. I’m talking about learning things about life and growing as a person. This little boy has absolutely changed me in the most amazing way possible. Sure, he’s caused a lot of emotional breakdowns and made me want to rip my hair out at times… but I will forever be thankful for all the things he’s taught me.
As we all know, parenting has its fair share of challenges. Lately, I find myself thinking thoughts where my mindset is future oriented rather than present oriented. Whether the thought is “I can’t wait for Jonas to be past the tantrum phase where we can reason with him” or “life will be so much easier once he starts listening better”, I seem to unintentionally be wishing the days away. This attitude causes me to get wrapped up in the tough parts of motherhood rather than all of the magical moments that I get to experience on a daily basis.
Yes, you read that title correctly. Moms, you are allowed to rest and recharge the same as anyone else! Easier said than done, right? Totally. But, it’s SO incredibly important to do for a variety of reasons. Now before we dig in, I want to acknowledge that having ‘me time’ may not be an option for everyone. Maybe you are a single mama and doing it all on your own. Or perhaps you live far away from family and getting someone to watch the kids isn’t easy. These situations are tough and make resting so incredibly difficult BUT, I still think it’s important to try even if it may not be nearly as often as you need.
The Great Debate: Stay at Home Moms vs. Working Moms
Working moms, have you ever told someone you’re a working mom and gotten the “oh… so you don’t spend a lot of time with your kids” response? Or how about the stay at home moms. Have you ever gotten the “oh… so you don’t have a career” response? Even if you haven’t actually received these responses, I think it’s safe to say we’ve ALL experienced the judgmental looks. But what about our part-time working mamas. In theory, they have the best of both worlds, right? Yet somehow they still get the same look. So, let’s break down the data and we can once and for all squash the great debate!
Prior to being a stay at home mama, I worked in the corporate HR world. In my role, I was constantly receiving feedback whether it be positive or negative (let’s be real, the negative isn’t always fun but at least you can learn from it!). I thrived off of feedback. There was nothing better than working feverishly on a big project and hearing that I did a great job. It always made the long hours and work worth it!